are you a user or a lover?

This test is part of chastity crash course p.5

Are You A User or An Authentic Lover of Others?

For Guys and Girls:
-Do you spend quality time with his or her family?
-Do you honor the rules that his or her parents set up?
-Are you honest with your family about him or her?
-Do you long to do what is the best for him or her?
-Has the relationship brought you closer to friends, family, and God?
-Could you see yourself possibly marrying him or her?
-Would he or she make a good father or mother?
-Do you go to church with him or her?
-Do you pray for each other?
-If the two of you have already been sexually active, would you stay together if he or she no longer wanted to have sex?
-Do you set clear boundaries about what you won’t do physically?
-Do you avoid situations where you’re likely to go too far?
-If his or her family knew everything about your relationship, would they approve?
-Do you dress and speak modestly to help him or her stay pure??


For Guys:
-When you see an attractive girl, do you automatically imagine doing sexual acts with her?
-When it comes to your speech, are you respectful around girls you want to impress, but you sound like Howard Stern when you’re with the guys?
-Do you look at your girlfriend (or any girl) and try to think of ways to get her to have sex with you?
-Do you ask or hint to your girlfriend that you want to sleep with her, hoping one day she’ll say yes?
-Do you tell your girlfriend you love her, hoping that she will be inclined to be sexually active with you?
-Do you get mad at your girlfriend if she doesn’t want to be physical in any way?
-Do you cheat on your girlfriend?
-Do you gently push her to go further than she wants during times when the two of you are physically intimate?
-Do you think of yourself, or say to others, "I’ll go out with her, but I probably won’t marry her."?
-Do you often think about engaging in sexual acts with girls?
-Do you find yourself trying to spend time alone with girls, rather than spending time together with them in group settings?
-Do you find that you "agree" with your girlfriend to avoid fights so that you can get physically intimate with her?
-Do you look at pornography?
-Do you find that you listen or "put up" with your girlfriend (or any girl) to increase your chances of becoming physically intimate with her?
-Do you want to get out of the relationship if she doesn’t want to get physically intimate with you?
-Do you talk to your friends about what you did or plan on doing sexually with your girlfriend?
-Do you dance in a way with your girlfriend (or any girl) that would make the girl’s dad want to shoot you?


For Girls:
-Have you done sexual acts or compromised your dignity to make a guy more interested in you?
-Do you sometimes give in to a guys sexual advances out of fear of rejection or to avoid arguments?
-Do you sometimes dress immodestly to get attention?
-Do you talk about impure things with your girlfriends?
-Do you flirt with guys when you have no intention of dating them?
-Have you ever flirted with a guy who was dating someone else?
-Have you flirted with another guy while you were dating someone else?
-Do you flirt in a sexual way?
-Do you cheat on your boyfriend?
-Do you settle for being a "friend with benefits", hooking up with no commitment?
-Do you put up with degrading sexual jokes in order to not seem prudish or exaggeratedly proper?
-Do you spread gossip about sexual acts others have done?
-Do you rush into relationships or always say "yes" when someone asks you out?
-Do you fall back into the same sexual mistakes, relationship after relationship?
-Do you justify doing sexual acts because you feel "in love" or "ready"?
-Do you talk about or look at impure images online?
-Do you read materials that have a distorted approach to love and sexuality?
-Do you tolerate your boyfriend looking at pornography?
-Do you stay in unhealthy relationships because you’re afraid of being alone?
-Do you dance or move in a way that invites guys to lust after you?